…when the roles are reversed.
Imagine that you’re a girl. Imagine that for the last couple of weeks, some guy has been desperately trying to get into your pants. You don’t know him very well despite his relentless advances. In fact, all he seems to care about is fucking you. Why does he want to fuck you so bad anyway? ‘Cause you’re a virgin, but let’s pretend you don’t know that.
He seems nice on the outside; he seems like a friend. You wouldn’t mind getting to know him better. Now imagine that you’ve just decided to invite him to your photography club so he can learn about who you are and what you’re interested in. After all, you’re not just a piece of meat. You’re not a cheap slut like some of those other girls…
So while you’re both in the dark room, you’re busy developing some pictures so he can see the fruits of your labor. All of a sudden, the safelight goes out. You know there’s a switch for the normal lights somewhere in the room. You’re trying to feel your way around the room to find it when you accidentally grab… his penis. Nope, this isn’t a joke. Nope, I didn’t mistype it. Yes, you just grabbed his dick.
While your back was turned, he — someone who you thought was a good friend — took off his pants and was about to grope (at the very least) you from behind. Whoa, time to press some charges!
The above scenario is a near perfect copy of what just played out in the third episode of B Gata H Kei, but with one crucial difference: the roles have been reversed. It was Kosuda who was clumsily poking around in the dark. It was Yamada who unbuttoned her shirt and was ready to pounce on the poor guy. When she accidentally tripped over some power cords, Kosuda accidentally managed to touch Yamada’s breasts while fumbling for the light switch in the dark. He didn’t realize what he was doing at the time, but does that really matter? Once it was all said and done, Yamada even had the nerve to get mad: “He touched my tits and he doesn’t even know it. He’s letting the world’s utmost pleasure go to waste.”
Was this supposed to be funny?
Was this not sexual harassment?
I can only imagine a few counterarguments:
A. You’re taking this too seriously. All guys want to touch women’s breasts. So what if Kosuda didn’t know what he was touching? Even if he had known, he wouldn’t have complained anyway.
There’s nothing like good ol’ double standards. This is why some male victims of rape are too ashamed to seek help, — whether it’d be legal or otherwise — because some sexless jackasses are too busy going “That lucky bastard. If only a women would rape me.”
Police Chief: Alright, you did the right thing telling the police, Brad. Now who’s the teacher? What’s his name?Kyle (claiming to be “Brad”): Well it isn’t a guy teacher, it’s a woman.Officer: A woman?Kyle: Yeah, she’s having sex with a boy.Officer: Oh, but… but she’s ugly, right?Kyle: Well no, not really. It’s that kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Stevenson.Police Chief: The blonde?Kyle: Yeah.Officer: Some young boy is having sex with Mrs. Stevenson?Kyle: Yes.
Yes, I realize Yamada didn’t rape Kosuda (though you could argue that she was about to), but why should that matter? A crime is a crime, regardless of severity or gender. It doesn’t matter whether she’s hot or not either, which leads us to…
B. Yamada’s hot. Why wouldn’t you want to grab her breasts? What are you, a fag?
So it’s okay if a pretty girl tricks you into grabbing her breasts, but let’s say it’s not your average anime bishoujo. Let’s say it was this:
Is it okay for her to trick you into grabbing her breasts?
C. This isn’t a fair comparison. Kosuda grabbed her breasts; the equivalent should be a girl accidentally grabbing a guy’s chest and not his penis. In that case, it’s not really that bad.
Who cares what you think though? Put yourself in the shoes of the victim. Do you think most girls are okay with being tricked into touching some guy’s chest?
But let’s say you’re still not convinced. Let’s change the hypothetical situation up a bit then. Let’s say you’re in Kosuda’s shoes, but instead of grabbing a pair of female breasts, you accidentally fondle a guy who has the hots for you. In fact, he wants to get in your pants just as much as Yamada would like to jump Kosuda’s bones. He came with you to the photography club just for the opportunity for the two of you to be alone together. While you were busy developing your pictures, he took off his shirt and was about to grab you from behind. Would you laugh this off? Do you think most guys would just laugh this off?
B Gata H Kei has a lot of problems going for it already. A guy who has nothing but sex on his mind is often considered a pervert, relegated to usually “best friend” status in some equally stupid harem anime. When a girl is the crazy sex maniac, however, apparently this qualifies her to be the lead of her own “innocent” romantic comedy. Even if Yamada is showing signs that she’s starting to care for Kosuda as a person and not a fuck toy, does this make her any less despicable? If a guy decides his trophy wife isn’t too bad of a woman, it still makes their marriage a sham.
The third episode, however, crossed a line. Some’s gonna say that this is just an anime for a bunch of young men so it doesn’t matter if it’s just some trashy humor. Who cares if it’s “just an anime?” Who cares if it’s not meant to be high art? Things that aren’t high art can still convey a message, intended or not. Whether B Gata H Kei intended to or not, it sends the message that female-on-male sexual harassment is funny, while never showing the true results and horrific consequences of such acts.